Thursday, June 6, 2013

Why I Haven't Gone "Public" With My Blog...Yet

I feel like such a bad blogger lately.  I mean, I didn't post yesterday (mainly because I literally ran out of time between preschool parties, swimming lessons and trying to clean this pig pen of a house) and the posts that I actually have deemed "worthy" for you all haven't been up to my standards.  I feel like I'm struggling to keep you myself interested in what I have to say.  I will literally sit at my computer for like 30-45 minutes just trying to come up with a topic.  I will start, get going a little bit, then lose all focus, and my train of thought.

I started this blog to document family milestones, fitness tips, random recipes, some of my fashion faves, etc.  But you wanna know a secret??  I haven't shared with any of my family or friends that I'm blogging...awful, right??

It's mainly because the one big thing that I really want to talk about, I haven't bit the bullet on yet.  Why is that?  Well, I'm scared that people that I really know in "real life", not just my blogging friends will stumble upon this blog and read about my daily life.  Not that I'm ashamed of it by any means, but sometimes I want to share things on here with y'all that I don't want the whole world to know...does that make sense?

I'm using this blog as a type of journal and scrapbook of memories.  And I guess I feel more confident about my free writing skills when I know that none of you out there are judging me...(or if you are, I don't really know you, personally, so I don't have a reason to get too embarrassed!)  Whereas, if I make this blog "Public" (aka, posting to facebook, instagram, and letting my family know about it) I feel like they already know me and have preconceived notions about my life, therefore will judge me if I post something even remotely controversial.

So my question to you all is this:  How did you or when did you decide to go public with your blog?  How do you throw out all of your reservations and fears about laying your life out on a silver platter for all to see read?

I'm really struggling with this right now and I truly believe that is why my posts have been lacking substance.  Do I keep my blog private (just sharing with my blog friends) and divulge into a layer of my personal life that I haven't yet touched upon yet?  Or do I open it up for everyone and their dog to read?

Any and all feedback on this subject would be greatly appreciated.  I love all my readers for even taking the time everyday to touch base with me and my blog, and I truly value your feedback!  So, from the bottom of my heart, I want to hear from you...because I have so, so much more to share!

Until next time...

11 comments:

  1. You know I never told ANY of my family or real life friends. Just something I chose not to do. I know my sister found out about it on IG. I have gotten positive feedback from her, so that is good. But I get 1000000% where you are coming from. It's weird, I still don't really want them to know...lol I am glad I found your blog, for sure!! :)

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    1. Thank you so much for your feedback Lori! It makes me feel more confident about my choice to stay "under the radar!" My own Mom (who I tell absolutely everything) doesn't even know about this! I guess I just feel that I don't have to sugar coat things this way!! I am soooo glad you started following me, as I am huge supporter of you...as if you didn't already know that ;)

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  2. I have only been blogging for a couple of months but I totally understand where you are coming from! I haven't told anyone about my blog either! It's just more comfortable that way! I'm using it as a journal for my baby girl's life and our family moments! Thanks for being honest and open about your feelings! I'm so glad I stumbled across your blog!

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    1. Oh my gosh, Stefanie, your feedback really means a lot! It's good to know that we can count on our blog friends to be there to support us and give us their honest insight without a biased opinion! That is what I love about blogging and why I'm leaning towards not advertising this anywhere else :) I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way!

      I'm so happy that you found my blog too! I hope you stick around for awhile, because I have soooo much more to share!!

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    2. Yes!! Glad to know I share these feelings with someone else! :) I will definitely be sticking around!!

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  3. Maybe this is because I'm just kind of OUT there. :) But I would do it when you're comfortable. I just had to let it go one day and so far I have only gotten good feed back! Do what makes you comfortable. Most importantly. BE YOURSELF!

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    1. You know what? You are so right...I'm doing this for me and nobody else! So when I do decide to go public, I will just take it as it comes: the good, the bad and the ugly! I just need to be true to myself and that's all that matters! Thank you for your input!! I'm also your newest follower ;)

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  4. When I started blogging I just went public... No specific reason but because I honestly didn't know you couldn't "blog illiterate over here". When the time is right you will know. I have had MANY MANY MANY confrontations with people over my blog posts, IG pics, etc... and honestly I made twitter private and deleted FB because of it. But I choose to stay public in some cases - such as my blog and IG because I am proud of me and I will not let them ALL defeat me:)

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    1. That was my biggest fear...the confrontations!! I'm such a "non-confrontation" type of girl, that I'm scared to stir the pot at all! But you know something?? This is me. This is my life. I have worked too dang hard to get to where I'm at to be ashamed! Thank you for your encouragement...I will remember this motivation when I do go public: "I am proud of me and I will not let them ALL defeat me!"

      I'm glad you are following along with me, as I am now your newest follower too!! :)

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  5. I still haven't told my family or friends about my blog. My boyfriend, Arron, knows about it and is incredibly supportive. But, it's kind of my own little thing. I'm sure the word will get out, but right now I like that it's mine. I found you thru Skinny Meg's link up and started looking around. I totally understand this post, missy!

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  6. I stumbled across you blog from the 5 for Friday link up, and as I was scrolling through some of your old posts this one caught my eye. I just started blogging, and while my husband knows he's one of the few. There is a part of me that is very scared about sharing this with others for fear of being judged. I guess I say all this to say I totally relate to how you feel! Thanks for posting this!!

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