Tuesday, June 18, 2013

I was chubby...now I'm not...dealing with the "after" negativity

So today is a little deep for me.  I like to keep things light hearted, energetic, humorous and uplifting for the most part around here, but something's been bothering me and I just wanted to vent on here, because I knew y'all would listen!  Bless your sweet little hearts ;)

If you've been following me for any length of time, you know that fitness is a huge part of my everyday life.  Like five out of six days of the week...but that wasn't always the case.  I used to consume large amounts of food without lifting a finger, let alone a set of weights!  I've worked hard to get to where I am today.  My fitness didn't come easily.  I have earned every pound lost, every muscle sculpted and every pant size dropped, the old fashioned way: diet and exercise.

I wasn't blessed with a high metabolism that allows me to eat whatever the heck I want.  I've always struggled with watching what I put in my mouth because just looking at a cookie before I started working out would cause me to gain five pounds!

So answer me this:  why did people tend to ignore and not give a hoot about my "before" but now feel the need to talk badly about my "after?"  I have been called everything from anorexic, bulimic, to my favorite one ever: the liposuction queen.  I mean, really??  I used to let it bother me, but I've decided that it is time for me to grow up.  Be the bigger person and brush it off.

Is it jealousy?  I'm sure.  But if they only knew the truth.  If only they knew that 50 lbs ago I would cry myself to sleep because I couldn't fit into my size 14 jeans and that I couldn't wear my wedding ring because I couldn't get it over my sausage fingers, so I decided to do something about it.  To take control of my life.

If only they knew that in the process of whipping my ass into shape I would do two-a-days in 100 degree heat, on the verge of passing out, beet red in the face and panting like a hog in heat.  Only to come home and have a salad with dressing on the side and an ice water for dessert.  If only they could have seen me weigh in at the gym every other week, only down one or two pounds after putting myself through that hell.  To turn around and bust my butt that much harder the next week.   If only they knew that this was a process that didn't happen over night.  That many tears were shed and the thought of giving up was in the back of my head every. single. day.

But I didn't.  And even though the majority of them are talking behind my back, whispering negativity about where I am today, I have decided to hold my head high.  I'm not going to lie, it's not easy to ignore them.  In fact, it's a down right mental beating when I hear something that was negatively said about me, but I am the bigger person.  I know what I've done to get to where I am and I am damn proud of it.

It's because of people like them that I push myself even harder every time I step foot in the gym.  So no, I don't ignore them.  I use their comments as ammunition to fuel my workouts and push me to my breaking point with every single mile ran, weight lifted and every minute of cardio I bust out every day.  They may have stolen my pride for a short time, but they can't take away that motivation.

So to all the "nay-sayers" out there, I want to say thank you.  It's because of you that I am where I am today.  Yes, I did this all on my own, but you push me to continue.  You may think you are tearing me down, but in fact, you are doing the opposite.  I am building myself up...to make it so nobody can ever knock me down!  Get used to this "after"...because it's here to stay.

Until next time...

18 comments:

  1. You look great! I know it's hard to hear negative things about yourself, especially when you've worked so hard and come so far. Keep your head held high. "Liposuction Queen?" That is hilarious!

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    1. Thank you so much for your sweet words! It is hard to brush it off, but you are so right about keeping my head held high...only I can let them bring me down and I refuse to do so!!

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  2. Love this!! You should totally be proud of yourself for working hard to get where you are at!

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    1. I really appreciate your sweet words of encouragement!! Thank you so much for helping me to look at the positive side...So blessed to have such wonderful blog friends to lift my spirits when I get knocked down!!

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  3. GIRL!!!! Do not listen to a word that those people are saying!!! 50 lbs is a huge accomplishemet and something to be uber proud of!!! They're making nasty comments because they're jealous of your thin, toned self! Keep your head held high and keep on keepin' on!

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    1. Bless your sweet little heart Stefanie! It truly means so much! And you, of all people understand the hard work it takes to get to where you are at! Don't you ever let anyone bring you down, either :) You are stunning!!

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  4. We are two peas in a pod! This is exactly what my blog post is about, today! Love you girl and you look BEYOND AMAZING!! You are the real deal!!!

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    1. Lori...I am pretty sure we were sisters in another life!! That, or we were just meant to meet!! You are absolutely gorgeous and a true inspiration to me and soooo many others!! Thank you for your sweet, sweet comments!!

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  5. Two words: Pure.Jealousy. Screw their comments and be proud of all you've accomplished!! You look fabulous and have obviously worked your butt off! Enjoy the new you and forget the negativity :) Congrats on your accomplishment!

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    1. You are so right!! Thank you so much for reminding me of this! I shouldn't be ashamed of where I am and how far I've come...Thank you for your sweet words of encouragement!

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  6. YOu look fantastic! Hold true to your words and don't let them get you down because you don't deserve it. Some people just don't understand hard work and determination!

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    1. You are such a doll! Thank you for helping to build me back up when I know that I can be so hard on myself! Your comment really means, so, so much to me!!

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  8. oh.my.gosh! you have every right to have spent some time hurt and angry! Workouts are not easy and you're right you earned every pound lost, that push through at the end of a set or the last stretch of a mile is pure hell but with that comes a mental and physical strength beyond measure. Your story is such an inspiration, love your attitude. Way to turn something so negative into something positive and motivating. Keep up the hard work, you look amazing! And remember, you have no one to prove a damn thing to but yourself!!

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    1. AMEN!!! Thank you so much for your uplifting comment! You are so right...it's taking me some time, but I am learning to love me for me and to ignore the trash talk...It's going to come with the territory and I just have to push on!! Thank you for popping over and saying hi! I don't know how I didn't know your blog before today, but I am now your newest follower! Love it!!

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  9. You are an inspiration to many and look GREAT! I can't believe anyone would say such hurtful things! They're just jealous of your determination and have nothing better to do with their time! Sad!

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    1. You are too sweet, Jenna :) Thank you so much!

      It's sad, but true...there are people out there who can't be happy for one another. But as long as you keep your head held high, that is all that matters! You have no one to prove a thing to but yourself ;)

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  10. Check out those super toned arms! Girl you are too blessed to be stressed! Shake it off and enjoy your success!

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